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Possibility for Derek

notanotherteenwolfpodcast:

So my heart is breaking for Derek, who is losing his werewolf powers and gradually turning into a normal human. But I get the uneasy feeling that when he does finally get to Kate, she’s going to be either unwilling to or unable to reverse what has happened to Derek (if Kate alone is the source at all). Like, what if what is happening to Derek is permanent, and there is no reversal? That fact has been solidifying in my head for a while. But then this morning a sudden thought came to my head. 

What if.

What if Derek did become fully human? Scott is an alpha. Scott would absolutely at least ask Derek if he would like the bite to turn him back into a werewolf. I feel he would ask Derek if he minded being Scott’s beta. And then I picture Derek just kind of smiling (because he’s smiling more!) and saying yes to the bite, to being Scott’s beta. And after the bite is given, Derek’s eyes are yellow, not blue, because he gets to start over. 

Derek doesn’t have to be constantly reminded of his painful past every time he looks at his eye color in the mirror.
He gets a job (because the Hale fortune is gone) to support himself, and earns a bit of self-worth.
He gets to be part of a pack again. A pack with an alpha he trusts and believes in more than anyone. A pack, a family, that he has steadily learned to trust and grow close to without realizing it. 

He never forgets his past, but this way it doesn’t have to eat away at his insides. He can breathe, he has a fresh start.

He can start over.

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…or maybe Derek accepts the bite, but it doesn’t work and he dies.

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(via coffeeinallcaps)

ficklefandoms:

ada-adorable:

literarysins:

In light of the 50 Shades of Grey trailer coming out today, quick reminder that that book is about an abusive and controlling relationship, not BDSM.

Fanfiction (published or not) is important for women of all ages to explore gender roles and sexuality in a way that is less stigmatized and more accessible. 

But do not do the BDSM community a disservice by calling the relationship described in the book a BDSM experience. 

Correction: the book (and, presumably, the movie) is about an abusive and controlling BDSM relationship. BDSM is often abusive, and kinky relationships should not be absolved from criticism (as they often are).

bolding what Ada said for truth

S E R I O U S L Y

Being in the kink community doesn’t magically make you incapable of being abusive. Someone who tries to act like it does? …Examine their motives and actions (and maybe stay awaaaaay, idk).

(via inurashii)

On Misandry Being Real and Not Being Real

misandry-mermaid:

It probably seems confusing.  Women* making statements like “Misandry doesn’t exist, there’s no such thing as misandry” in one moment, and identifying as misandrist in the next. 

What is misandry?

Misandry is generally defined as a hatred of men, while misogyny is the hatred of women.  Misandry is often used synonymously with the term “reverse-sexism”.  However, misandry as praxis is not real.  I’ll say it again:

Misandry as praxis is not real.

For misandry to actually be a real belief system with real consequences, it would need to be an institutionalized practice.  There would have to be a centuries-old system in place in which men are treated as inferior to women, by women (as well as men with “internalized misandry”).  And there is no human society in which that is true.

Sexism = prejudice + power

For misandry to be a legitimate threat to men, there would have to be a consistent pattern of discrimination against men BY women.  If misandry were real, men would be suffering from lower pay for equal work, disproportionate objectification, dehumanization, and lack of representation in the media, discriminatory reproductive laws, being regularly told how to modify behavior in order to not be victimized by criminals, and being blamed and shamed after falling victim to a serious sex crime.  And all those things would need to be enforced by women.  It is true, there are some effects of patriarchy in place by which men do not benefit; in fact they are harmed by them.  But those systems generally reinforce gender roles and are in place overwhelmingly because other men (namely wealthy, white men) wrote and enforce those laws.

Why be misandrist?

So we’ve established that there is no actual such thing as misandry.

So why do so many feminists use the word and identify as “misandrist”?

Of course, all people who identify as misandrist have their own reasons.  Some of those reasons I’ve witnessed include

  • It’s a tongue-in-cheek joke among some feminists, mainly on the internet, which for the most part began as a reaction to men pushing back against our desire for female liberation (because to privileged men, the concept of women gaining rights means they must automatically lose rights)
  • It’s a defense mechanism by women who have, exclusively at the hands of men, suffered myriad forms of aggression, micro-aggression, violence, pain, violation, and dehumanization.  It seems that a high number of women who identify online as misandrist are in fact survivors.  For a person to have experienced systemic and personal discrimination and based on their gender, by a person of a different gender, a hatred of the oppressor is an valid and understandable reaction to have.
  • It is used by women to get a rise out of men who, for so many centuries, have used sexist, anti-woman humor to reinforce women’s societal role as second class citizens.  We grow up hearing men tell countless jokes about domestic violence, rape, reinforcement of gender roles, and the mocking of female bodies and body types.  Because of this, it can be highly entertaining to witness a man throw a tantrum upon hearing a single joke in which HIS gender is mocked and mistreated.  For him, a joke at his expense is a rare and shocking occurrence.  For women, it is a part of every day conversation.
  • It is a continuation of feminism and fills in the areas where feminism leaves off or lacks aggression against the oppression we face.  As quoted from an earlier post in which I define my personal reason for identifying with misandry: “Men have a lot of privileges that NO ONE should have, not even oppressed groups. Being able to sexually assault people and not be held accountable or punished, being glorified for taking advantage of others, using  power and privilege to hurt and mock those that lack power to defend themselves, being treated like you’re immune to criticism and fault, etc. Saying women should have equality potentially implies women should have the right to do all those things too.
  • Misandry is not a hatred of every individual man but a hatred of patriarchy, the male-dominated system that allows sexism to permeate every aspect of our lives without challenge.  Misandry means hatred of a system in which the masculine is glorified and the feminine is deprecated.

These are just a few of the reasons that I’ve heard self-identified misandrists use.  Just as every lived experience of sexism and oppression for us has manifested differently, how we all react to it is different.  Some women form a strong belief of internalized that misogyny and try to integrate with men as much as possible while publicly denouncing the behavior and voices of other women.  Some women absolutely hate men, with impassioned fervor.  Some women become activists and throw themselves at the cause of fighting for equality.  Some women hide in the shadows and hope for the best.

I can’t say I’ve ever actually met a single woman who actually had a deep hatred for men on an individual and all-encompassing level.  Despite facing discrimination by men every single day, I see women most often direct any hatred they feel towards the system we live in that allows this type of oppression to continue.  We still have men in our lives that we love and adore and would die for, and it makes it that much more painful knowing that those same men we love have been conditioned since birth to see us as somehow inferior.

All these and other reactions that women have to the systemic oppression of our gender are defense mechanisms, meant to effectively keep ourselves as safe as possible.  Misandry is, like these, a reaction to the treatment we face every day.  How we define it and how it manifests in us may vary widely.  But most often we say “misandry” and then laugh when men cower or become enraged at its mention because, in reality, it is really no threat to them.


*For the sake of simplicity and making this post as readable as possible to people who have little understanding those outside the gender binary, I’m use the term “men” to generally mean “cis-men”, and when I reference “women” I include MOGII people as a group systemically oppressed by patriarchy.

We still have men in our lives that we love and adore and would die for, and it makes it that much more painful knowing that those same men we love have been conditioned since birth to see us as somehow inferior.